Do nice guys/gals finish last?

As a business owner, I’ve had the pleasure of working with some truly wonderful clients who are kind, considerate, and always looking out for the best interests of others. However, I’ve noticed that many of these clients often end up hurting themselves in the process. They put others first and neglect their own needs, which can lead to burnout and resentment.

So, do nice guys/gals really finish last? The answer is no. In fact, research has shown that being kind and considerate can be a great asset in both personal and professional life. However, it’s important to find a balance between being kind and assertive. Being too nice can sometimes lead to negative consequences, such as sacrificing your own needs and desires for the sake of others.

If you’re struggling with this issue, here are some tips that might help:
1. Be assertive: Being assertive is not about others not getting what they want. It can get you to a win-win situation where everyone’s needs are met.

2. Communicate your needs: Others can’t read your mind and often don’t know what you need or the impact their request has on you. Communicate your needs clearly.

3. Assert your boundaries: People will often respect you more if you are assertive and let them know what you need. Knowing your boundaries, what you are and are not ok with, and communicating it (thoughtfully) demonstrates confidence and strength.

4. Consider what’s in it for them: Consider how your getting your needs met will also help them to get their needs met, and include that thinking in your communication with them. How you communicate what you need can make all the difference.

Remember, being kind and considerate is a valuable trait that can help you build strong relationships and succeed in both your personal and professional life. By taking care of yourself, you’ll be better equipped to help others in the long run.